"Pleasure is the right of every girl."
Wu Xiaopiao, a female student in Beijing
A total of more than 1000 interesting toys were evaluated since 2007.
The characteristics, functions and uses of each sex toy,
They are all written into reports and published on the Internet.
She also consulted more than 30000 women,
Help them understand their bodies better,
Decide which toys are suitable for you and how to use them.
"Pleasure is the right of every girl,
Using and buying sex toys is a kind of sexual independence,
This is my original intention to do this. "
Written by Xiao Yue, Wu Xiaopiao
I'm Wu Xiaopiao, a native of Beijing. After finishing my postgraduate study in the UK, I chose to return to China to work. After five years in a public relations company, I quit my job and became a fun toy evaluator.
I have made a total of more than 1000 assessments of sex toys in the past 11 years from 2007 till now, and provided counseling services for at least 30000 women, so that they can better understand their bodies.
There is no profession of "sex toy evaluator" in China before me.
Because my mother is a doctor, there have been many medical magazines on human anatomy since childhood. After reading many of these books, I feel that sexual organs are just body parts like other organs.
Among my peers, I was the one with the most abundant sexual knowledge when I was young. Even my first boyfriend told me later that his knowledge of sex came from me.
Picture Ann Summers store in England
I went to the UK to study abroad. At that time, there was a chain of sexy lingerie stores called Ann Summers in shopping malls in major cities in 2001. There were many beautiful lingerie stores outside. You would see many sexy toys walking inside.
At that time, I had never seen a decent sex toy store in China. Most Chinese people are also very strange to sexy products. What they can think of is some adult goods stores on the street. Sisters in white coats stand behind the counter and sell some scary appliances.
However, in Ann Summers, we can often see British grandmothers shopping together and buying fun toys with great pleasure, without hiding anything. I envy them so much that they can freely choose interesting toys and discuss sex together. I was also shocked by the variety of interesting toys in the shop. The original sex can also be interesting, elegant and beautiful.
I was wondering why not bring these toys back to China?
I began to try to collect different kinds of sex toys, some of which were given as gifts to my good friends in China, but I was often asked some awkward questions: "How should I use it?" and "Why do I need to use it when I am not single?"
I gradually found that adults with such needs in China have no way to acquire knowledge about sex toys. There are often only some simple product pictures and text introductions on the Internet, but the specific vibration frequency, whether it is suitable for women's body structure and whether it is easy to use, we can't make reference, let alone buy it.
Evaluate sex toys from a female perspective
I simply quit my job in a domestic public relations company and started my own business in 2007, and became a full-time sex toy evaluator, doing evaluation, consulting and sales at the same time.
From the perspective of women, I wrote an evaluation report on the characteristics, functions and uses of each sex toy and published it on the Internet, so that more girls can judge which sex toys are suitable for them and how to better use them.
There was no such profession as "sex toy evaluator" in China before me.
I have done research and statistics, and found that there are about two or three hundred people involved in the sex toy evaluation industry nationwide, but none of them can be called "professional". Many manufacturers have made some so-called "assessments", but only let women wear revealing clothes and take photos with some interesting toys.
Some magazines found me and invited me to write women's columns, so that I opened my own popularity.
I completed the evaluation report of more than 1000 kinds of interesting toys in 11 years.
My most important daily work is to choose different sex toys, test them once a week, and write a report. At present, I have tested more than 1000 sex toys.
I divide the evaluation of fun toys into these dimensions: shape design, material, sound, motor, charging mode, whether it is waterproof, and how well it matches the body.
The process is divided into the following steps:
1. Unpack first, which is the same as mobile phone evaluation;
2. Observe the appearance of the toy, touch it with your hands, and feel its touch on the skin;
3. Test with auxiliary tools, such as measuring the approximate size with a ruler, and detecting the sound of the motor with a decibel tester. If the toy is waterproof, do a waterproof test.
4. Finally, put it on your own body to test, and write a complete report of your experience and feelings, about 600-800 words.
Sometimes, I also do a simple disassembly to see if there are the functions described by the manufacturer.
Some interesting toys have a beautiful appearance, but when they are opened, they find that they do not even have a basic plastic structure. The circuit boards inside the silica gel are arranged in a mess. If the components are twisted together for a long time, the life of the entire motor will be affected.
Funny sex toy disassembling
Some European and American sex toys are too big to be suitable for Asian women.
The most wonderful toy I have tried is a spherical appliance that looks like an egg. At the bottom is a small egg, which can be frozen in the refrigerator and then taken out for use. But after the actual use, I think its temperature is too low, and it is not comfortable at all. I classify it as a kind of "flashy" sex toy.
Good toys often have the characteristics of low sound, overall waterproof, convenient charging, and skin friendly materials. It does not mean that the more expensive and fancy the design, the better.
A good evaluator of fun toys can not bring personal subjective color in my opinion , but must objectively present the advantages and disadvantages of fun toys to everyone as much as possible.
Xiaopiao's warehouse for stacking interesting toys
In the first four years, I had a relatively high frequency of evaluation. At the most exaggerated time, I would test one in two or three days. But now, I only test one sex toy a week, which is to maintain the basic sensitivity of the body and complete each test as fairly as possible.
I won't try many interesting toys with the same shape and no new idea. Although it is harmless to the body, if it is too frequent, the body will feel tired and lose sensitivity.
What kind of people are using sex toys?
I will recommend different sex toys according to everyone's situation:
The first type of women, I call them "Xiaobai". "Xiaobai" refers to girls of all ages who have no knowledge of their sexual organs or have many misunderstandings. I would recommend them some entry-level sex toys, such as jumping eggs for external use.
The second type is women who have been married for 5-10 years or more, and they hope their sexual life can take a new step. Especially after having children, they feel less passionate and want to explore some possibilities. For this part of the population, I would recommend the vibration toys shared by their spouses, which can stimulate the sensitive parts of both spouses at the same time.
The third group is independent women. She may be single or in a relationship. For them, sex is not to please each other. They are even curious about the future and their bodies. This kind of girls are usually more open. I will help them choose some new, bold and interesting sex toys.
The fourth category is some women in difficulties. Some people are about to divorce or break up with their other half, or are being "derailed". If this is the case, I would recommend some sex toys that can arouse the feelings between couples, but more would recommend them to do marital counseling.
Chinese women are learning to delight themselves
Professor Pan Suiming, director of the Institute of Sexual Sociology of Renmin University of China and known as "the first person in China's sexology", found in a nationwide sex survey from 2010 to 2015 that the number of women who really bought sex toys increased from 2.7% five years ago to 5.7%, while the number of people who wanted to buy sex toys increased from 8.6% to 9.9%, that is, about one sixth of women were willing to accept sex toys.
According to the statistical data of Tmall, the sales of sex toys have developed rapidly in the past five years, among which the sales of female sex toys are the most noticeable. The sales of female sex toys have soared by 11 times compared with the previous year, and the sales of vibrating sticks have increased by 51 times in that year.
Mary is one of my clients. She is 44 years old and also a sexual psychologist. She is a heavy user of sex toys. She has tried about 50 or 60 different toys in 6 years.
She doesn't use sex toys because of her bad relationship with her husband. On the contrary, they have been married for 20 years, 1-2 times a week, probably more frequently than many young people.
Once she said to me, "I often use toys, and sometimes my husband bumps into me, and I will joke that I will summon you to come in when my side is over. It will be over. My husband is 48 years old, and we are both in a healthy state of mind, and we feel that this lightens the burden on both sides."
Mary's daughter is 18 years old this year. She decided to give her a fun toy after her daughter went to college, so that she could learn how to love herself with the right idea.
Michelle is my friend. She is 34 years old and single. Her family is very conservative. Her parents told her from an early age that girls should not have sex before marriage.
The first time she tried sex toys was three years ago, just out of curiosity. She told me, "It's not shame to touch yourself, but it's fun."
After getting familiar with her body, Michelle became more open to sex and felt eager to try. This year, she had a boy she liked for the first time and had a relationship with him: "The whole process was very pleasant. I was a person who was afraid of pain, not as terrible and painful as I thought."
There are friends asking Xiao Piao for advice oftenly.
In addition to being a fun toy evaluator,
I'm also a relationship planner
The women I consulted with were in their 20s and 60s respectively.
Slowly, I found that the relationship between men and women not only depends on physical communication, but also on psychological problems. Therefore, I went to the United States to take courses in human sexuality and psychology. I wanted to better help women who were confused in the relationship between the sexes.
I started to do offline training camps related to sex toys and gender in 2015.
This training consists of three parts: first, physiological health and sexual knowledge, to teach everyone to know their own body structure. The second is to present the fun toys to everyone to show their texture and touch, so that everyone has a basic understanding. The third is some psychological training to let everyone know what kind of state they are in in the intimate relationship.
More than one girl once asked me for help: Why can't she have normal sex with her husband after three or four years of marriage? They always feel that they have a physiological problem and can't solve it even if they go to the hospital.
I remember a newly married couple came to me. The husband was 30 years old and the wife was only 20 years old. It was the husband who sent his wife over. The wife did not understand anything and was relatively resistant. As a boy, she did not know how to speak and guide.
The girl was very shy at first and didn't say a word. Later, she slowly opened her heart to me. It turns out that she was very negative about sex because she was sexually assaulted when she was young, and she was unwilling to communicate with her family.
picture
Another girl, who was very conservative before marriage, could not accept premarital sex at all. As a result, her fiance ran away with other girls a week before marriage, and she was very frightened to find me and asked herself what to do? Then after the first class, she felt that her mind was completely open.
There was a sister in her forties who had been married for more than ten years. Her husband probably cheated seven or eight times. She found me painfully and asked me how to save him?
In such cases, I can only enlighten her psychologically. This is not a sexual problem, but a huge gap in the lives of two people, which can not be remedied by one sex toy.
Sex toy offline training camp
I am often misunderstood and even abused in this profession. Many people will ask me: Xiaopiao, have you slept with many people? Some people even say: How can you do these things as a girl? But I never respond.
Using and buying sex toys is a kind of sexual independence.
My goal in doing this is simple. I want women and their partners to learn effective communication methods in gender relations, put forward their own ideas and needs, and let more women learn to be happy.
Wu Xiaopiao, a female student in Beijing
A total of more than 1000 interesting toys were evaluated since 2007.
The characteristics, functions and uses of each sex toy,
They are all written into reports and published on the Internet.
She also consulted more than 30000 women,
Help them understand their bodies better,
Decide which toys are suitable for you and how to use them.
"Pleasure is the right of every girl,
Using and buying sex toys is a kind of sexual independence,
This is my original intention to do this. "
Written by Xiao Yue, Wu Xiaopiao
I'm Wu Xiaopiao, a native of Beijing. After finishing my postgraduate study in the UK, I chose to return to China to work. After five years in a public relations company, I quit my job and became a fun toy evaluator.
I have made a total of more than 1000 assessments of sex toys in the past 11 years from 2007 till now, and provided counseling services for at least 30000 women, so that they can better understand their bodies.
There is no profession of "sex toy evaluator" in China before me.
Because my mother is a doctor, there have been many medical magazines on human anatomy since childhood. After reading many of these books, I feel that sexual organs are just body parts like other organs.
Among my peers, I was the one with the most abundant sexual knowledge when I was young. Even my first boyfriend told me later that his knowledge of sex came from me.
Picture Ann Summers store in England
I went to the UK to study abroad. At that time, there was a chain of sexy lingerie stores called Ann Summers in shopping malls in major cities in 2001. There were many beautiful lingerie stores outside. You would see many sexy toys walking inside.
At that time, I had never seen a decent sex toy store in China. Most Chinese people are also very strange to sexy products. What they can think of is some adult goods stores on the street. Sisters in white coats stand behind the counter and sell some scary appliances.
However, in Ann Summers, we can often see British grandmothers shopping together and buying fun toys with great pleasure, without hiding anything. I envy them so much that they can freely choose interesting toys and discuss sex together. I was also shocked by the variety of interesting toys in the shop. The original sex can also be interesting, elegant and beautiful.
I was wondering why not bring these toys back to China?
I began to try to collect different kinds of sex toys, some of which were given as gifts to my good friends in China, but I was often asked some awkward questions: "How should I use it?" and "Why do I need to use it when I am not single?"
I gradually found that adults with such needs in China have no way to acquire knowledge about sex toys. There are often only some simple product pictures and text introductions on the Internet, but the specific vibration frequency, whether it is suitable for women's body structure and whether it is easy to use, we can't make reference, let alone buy it.
Evaluate sex toys from a female perspective
I simply quit my job in a domestic public relations company and started my own business in 2007, and became a full-time sex toy evaluator, doing evaluation, consulting and sales at the same time.
From the perspective of women, I wrote an evaluation report on the characteristics, functions and uses of each sex toy and published it on the Internet, so that more girls can judge which sex toys are suitable for them and how to better use them.
There was no such profession as "sex toy evaluator" in China before me.
I have done research and statistics, and found that there are about two or three hundred people involved in the sex toy evaluation industry nationwide, but none of them can be called "professional". Many manufacturers have made some so-called "assessments", but only let women wear revealing clothes and take photos with some interesting toys.
Some magazines found me and invited me to write women's columns, so that I opened my own popularity.
I completed the evaluation report of more than 1000 kinds of interesting toys in 11 years.
My most important daily work is to choose different sex toys, test them once a week, and write a report. At present, I have tested more than 1000 sex toys.
I divide the evaluation of fun toys into these dimensions: shape design, material, sound, motor, charging mode, whether it is waterproof, and how well it matches the body.
The process is divided into the following steps:
1. Unpack first, which is the same as mobile phone evaluation;
2. Observe the appearance of the toy, touch it with your hands, and feel its touch on the skin;
3. Test with auxiliary tools, such as measuring the approximate size with a ruler, and detecting the sound of the motor with a decibel tester. If the toy is waterproof, do a waterproof test.
4. Finally, put it on your own body to test, and write a complete report of your experience and feelings, about 600-800 words.
Sometimes, I also do a simple disassembly to see if there are the functions described by the manufacturer.
Some interesting toys have a beautiful appearance, but when they are opened, they find that they do not even have a basic plastic structure. The circuit boards inside the silica gel are arranged in a mess. If the components are twisted together for a long time, the life of the entire motor will be affected.
Funny sex toy disassembling
Some European and American sex toys are too big to be suitable for Asian women.
The most wonderful toy I have tried is a spherical appliance that looks like an egg. At the bottom is a small egg, which can be frozen in the refrigerator and then taken out for use. But after the actual use, I think its temperature is too low, and it is not comfortable at all. I classify it as a kind of "flashy" sex toy.
Good toys often have the characteristics of low sound, overall waterproof, convenient charging, and skin friendly materials. It does not mean that the more expensive and fancy the design, the better.
A good evaluator of fun toys can not bring personal subjective color in my opinion , but must objectively present the advantages and disadvantages of fun toys to everyone as much as possible.
Xiaopiao's warehouse for stacking interesting toys
In the first four years, I had a relatively high frequency of evaluation. At the most exaggerated time, I would test one in two or three days. But now, I only test one sex toy a week, which is to maintain the basic sensitivity of the body and complete each test as fairly as possible.
I won't try many interesting toys with the same shape and no new idea. Although it is harmless to the body, if it is too frequent, the body will feel tired and lose sensitivity.
What kind of people are using sex toys?
I will recommend different sex toys according to everyone's situation:
The first type of women, I call them "Xiaobai". "Xiaobai" refers to girls of all ages who have no knowledge of their sexual organs or have many misunderstandings. I would recommend them some entry-level sex toys, such as jumping eggs for external use.
The second type is women who have been married for 5-10 years or more, and they hope their sexual life can take a new step. Especially after having children, they feel less passionate and want to explore some possibilities. For this part of the population, I would recommend the vibration toys shared by their spouses, which can stimulate the sensitive parts of both spouses at the same time.
The third group is independent women. She may be single or in a relationship. For them, sex is not to please each other. They are even curious about the future and their bodies. This kind of girls are usually more open. I will help them choose some new, bold and interesting sex toys.
The fourth category is some women in difficulties. Some people are about to divorce or break up with their other half, or are being "derailed". If this is the case, I would recommend some sex toys that can arouse the feelings between couples, but more would recommend them to do marital counseling.
Chinese women are learning to delight themselves
Professor Pan Suiming, director of the Institute of Sexual Sociology of Renmin University of China and known as "the first person in China's sexology", found in a nationwide sex survey from 2010 to 2015 that the number of women who really bought sex toys increased from 2.7% five years ago to 5.7%, while the number of people who wanted to buy sex toys increased from 8.6% to 9.9%, that is, about one sixth of women were willing to accept sex toys.
According to the statistical data of Tmall, the sales of sex toys have developed rapidly in the past five years, among which the sales of female sex toys are the most noticeable. The sales of female sex toys have soared by 11 times compared with the previous year, and the sales of vibrating sticks have increased by 51 times in that year.
Mary is one of my clients. She is 44 years old and also a sexual psychologist. She is a heavy user of sex toys. She has tried about 50 or 60 different toys in 6 years.
She doesn't use sex toys because of her bad relationship with her husband. On the contrary, they have been married for 20 years, 1-2 times a week, probably more frequently than many young people.
Once she said to me, "I often use toys, and sometimes my husband bumps into me, and I will joke that I will summon you to come in when my side is over. It will be over. My husband is 48 years old, and we are both in a healthy state of mind, and we feel that this lightens the burden on both sides."
Mary's daughter is 18 years old this year. She decided to give her a fun toy after her daughter went to college, so that she could learn how to love herself with the right idea.
Michelle is my friend. She is 34 years old and single. Her family is very conservative. Her parents told her from an early age that girls should not have sex before marriage.
The first time she tried sex toys was three years ago, just out of curiosity. She told me, "It's not shame to touch yourself, but it's fun."
After getting familiar with her body, Michelle became more open to sex and felt eager to try. This year, she had a boy she liked for the first time and had a relationship with him: "The whole process was very pleasant. I was a person who was afraid of pain, not as terrible and painful as I thought."
There are friends asking Xiao Piao for advice oftenly.
In addition to being a fun toy evaluator,
I'm also a relationship planner
The women I consulted with were in their 20s and 60s respectively.
Slowly, I found that the relationship between men and women not only depends on physical communication, but also on psychological problems. Therefore, I went to the United States to take courses in human sexuality and psychology. I wanted to better help women who were confused in the relationship between the sexes.
I started to do offline training camps related to sex toys and gender in 2015.
This training consists of three parts: first, physiological health and sexual knowledge, to teach everyone to know their own body structure. The second is to present the fun toys to everyone to show their texture and touch, so that everyone has a basic understanding. The third is some psychological training to let everyone know what kind of state they are in in the intimate relationship.
More than one girl once asked me for help: Why can't she have normal sex with her husband after three or four years of marriage? They always feel that they have a physiological problem and can't solve it even if they go to the hospital.
I remember a newly married couple came to me. The husband was 30 years old and the wife was only 20 years old. It was the husband who sent his wife over. The wife did not understand anything and was relatively resistant. As a boy, she did not know how to speak and guide.
The girl was very shy at first and didn't say a word. Later, she slowly opened her heart to me. It turns out that she was very negative about sex because she was sexually assaulted when she was young, and she was unwilling to communicate with her family.
picture
Another girl, who was very conservative before marriage, could not accept premarital sex at all. As a result, her fiance ran away with other girls a week before marriage, and she was very frightened to find me and asked herself what to do? Then after the first class, she felt that her mind was completely open.
There was a sister in her forties who had been married for more than ten years. Her husband probably cheated seven or eight times. She found me painfully and asked me how to save him?
In such cases, I can only enlighten her psychologically. This is not a sexual problem, but a huge gap in the lives of two people, which can not be remedied by one sex toy.
Sex toy offline training camp
I am often misunderstood and even abused in this profession. Many people will ask me: Xiaopiao, have you slept with many people? Some people even say: How can you do these things as a girl? But I never respond.
Using and buying sex toys is a kind of sexual independence.
My goal in doing this is simple. I want women and their partners to learn effective communication methods in gender relations, put forward their own ideas and needs, and let more women learn to be happy.
